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Posted on Mar 30, 2014

[read.] When Your Man of God Steps Outside the Marriage

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To forgive or not to forgive!  That is the question.  Tina Campbell, one half of the platinum selling gospel duo, Mary, Mary, has recently opened up to audiences on the duos hit reality tv show, also entitled “Mary, Mary”, regarding infidelity on the part of her husband, Teddy Campbell.  This news was a bombshell that rocked the Christian community!  But c’mon!  Really?  Why should it have been such a shock?  Because she is part of Mary, Mary, a Christian artist with millions, a home with kids and husband?  People are people wherever you go!  Regardless as to age, race, color, creed, sex, we are all human and are prone to the same mistakes as anybody else.  However, Christians are held to a higher standard.  In fact, the highest!

So, what do you do when your man of God steps out on you?  How about more than once?  Or better yet, with several different women?  Well, when Jesus was asked in Matthew 18 should a man be forgiven 7 times, He answered, …”Not seven times, but seventy times seven!  I know some of you are saying, “Aint no way I can do that!”   I’m sure you’re not alone, however, for Tina Campbell, she has decided to forgive her man.  I say, good for her!   Please understand, I am in no way condoning the infidelity, nor am I stating that everyone should stay in the situation.  I am simply stating that I believe Tina values her marriage, as well as her husband Teddy or she would’ve just thrown in the towel and he would’ve just left altogether.  Teddy is reaching out for help and Tina is willing to heal openly with her husband for the sake of the family, of which I find commendable.

Unforgiveness is cancerous.  It leads to bitterness, sickness and disease of spirit as well as in the physical.  It is also a cop out.  A way to dismiss a situation rather than deal with it head on and allow the healing process to begin.  The road to recovery is never easy in any case, however, it is the only way that you can get back to you and have peace of mind, again.  Infidelity can happen to godly men.  It is not a matter of resisting in your physical alone, but also leaning on the Spirit of God.  Many do not know how to do that or even know what it means.  I commend Tina and Teddy for coming out with this “secret” in their marriage.  Not only have they allowed people to see that despite their fame and fortune, they have the same problems as everyday people.  They have set an example of how to forgive, the many stages of forgiving and overcoming together and lastly the shear realness of it all!  No smoke and mirrors!   Kudos to Tina and Teddy!  God bless you and your family as you have taken the path of forgiveness and healing as opposed to throwing your marriage all away!

I’d like to know what you think.  What’s your opinion on the whole forgiveness of adultery thing?  As far as a biblical perspective, God has given some great answers on the topic.  Please comment below and give us your opinion, experiences or comments on the issue.

 

Sistah

4 Comments

  1. Ooooo……..what a touchy subject. I would have to holla, “JESUS TAKE THE WHEEL!” I am very happy for Tina and her husband. All I can say is that I HOPE and PRAY that I can be that forgiving should I ever be in that position, God forbid. Its easy to say what you WOULD do, but until you’re actually in that position is the only time you can actually say, “I…… When you married that person it is for better or for worse. You agreed to get married because you love that person with your soul. When you have that deep soulfelt love and passion for someone, it is hard to just turn the love off.

  2. Having been the adulterer in my marriage, I have experienced the power of forgiveness.
    After being in two long term relationships that resulted in children, I, like the prodigal son came to myself, submitted to Jesus my life and all that I have and asked first for His forgiveness, then that of my wife and our children. I also made attempts to ask forgiveness of the other women and children. One woman accepted the other didnot. One child accepted and the other did not.
    It has been some time now since my ill choices, and my wife and I are now in our 14th year of her forgiving me and starting anew. To say it was or is easy would be a bold faced lie, but she was and is a woman who values those timeless vows of marriage and I am so thankful to have a woman like her. Once we decided that it was God’s way or no way His loved healed us and continues to do so.
    The sting of infidelity, a friend or family member who has wronged us is horrendous, but when we honesty live the Word of God, loving as He loves and forgiving as He does we will be alright whether the marriage or any other relationship is severed forever. Do all that you can do to be peaceable with all men.
    Love
    R.A.G.

    • Wow! This testimony has me in tears, right now!

  3. Betrayal in any relationship is hard to forgive. Learning to extend grace to the individual that wronged you is extremely difficult. When you add the element of marriage to the mix, it can feel like you have reached the point of no return. I too commend Tina and Teddy for walking this experience out for the world to see. I pray that God will give them the grace to renew their commitment to each other and that their testimony will be an example to other married couples that there is life after infidelity. The most important lesson that any of us can learn is forgiveness. The TRUE God-like type of forgiveness that extends grace and mercy to the offender. When we as servants of God decide that we are going to live a life that is pleasing unto Him, we HAVE to forgive. Not an easy task by a long shot, but totally DO-ABLE. When we remember that Christ died and FORGAVE ALL of OUR OFFENSES and no longer holds us accountable for them, then we must do the same for those that offend and hurt us. In marriage, we have to remember that God ordained the family and Marriage and that is why the enemy comes to attack that bond. He goes about as a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour. We must hold fast to God’s word and do things to strengthen the bond. We have to watch as well as pray. We have to pray together and for each other, go on dates, communicate with each other and stay committed to the reason we said “I do” in the first place. Sometimes things will happen, after all, we are only human…but if we are quick to act and resolve conflicts when they arise, say I’m sorry when we are wrong, and fight for our relationships, we will be victorious in the end. Great commentary Sistah, keep up the good work! <3

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